No one wants to be that couple that everyone stares at in the grocery store because they can't seem to stop fighting about what kind of fat-free yogurt to buy.
Or, if you're Dane Cook fan: the nothing fight over jelly.
But the fact is that couples don't want to be known for having arguments at all. When couples argue, they tend to do it behind closed doors, hidden away from everyone else. There are so many articles written by therapists claiming that they can help couples stop fighting. But why should we try to stop it at all? Fighting is important to keeping a relationship healthy. Should we just hold all of our anger inside until it explodes and we end up having to make that shameful phone call to our parents for bail?
It seems like it's the couples that don't fight that are the unstable ones. It's the prim and proper couples that really scare me. Women who hold in their opinions have a higher chance of death and even scarier: irritable bowel syndrome. (ewww) So the next time you think its best to just ignore your boyfriend's football-watching-Cheeto-eating annoying behavior, think about all those feelings coming out in the form of explosive diarrhea. If you're too shy to speak up, you might want to start stocking up on Charmin now.
Maybe I'm from the old school of thought, but I think, the couple that fights together stays together. A lesson I learned last weekend when the usual You never do the things I like fight, ended in a spontaneous getaway to Orlando, the best vacation we've ever had.
Let the angry words flow from your mouth. Don't walk away or cool off, don't be afraid of saying something you might regret, just say it. A fight can be a way to capture all the little problems and fix them.
For instance, a stupid fight about annoying habits can be a sign that you're spending too much time together.
If you're in the type of relationship that challenges you mentally, spiritually, physically, you're more likely to have a You-can't-trust-anyone-just-like-your-mother fight.
Granted fighting is always a sign of good things to come, if nothing gets resolved and it turns into a habit, your relationship might be treading in dangerous waters.
FIGHTING FAIR VS. FIGHTING DIRTY
1)The main difference between the good fights and the bad ones is intention. Believe it or not, you can pick a fight and have good intentions-and then both people are trying to help each other and the fight leads to personal growth. (Just ignore the cheesy factor)
2)If the fight turns physical, it's time to run like hell.
3)It's true you shouldn't go to bed angry but, if you can't picture this fight ending in sex, it could be time to just walk away.
The very best reason that couples shouldn't shy away from verbal brawls is the kick- ass way in which couples make up. Use your imagination here.
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