Whoever said women are from Venus and men are from Mars must not have been referring to sexual fantasies.
During an episode of Private Practice last week, a female character was having the most unrealistic sexual fantasy in the history of sexual fantasies. Her fantasy consisted of a handsome guy saying things like, “I love your red hair” and "You’re so intelligent…that really turns me on."
Now I’m sure ABC was just using this absurd stereotypical fantasy for humor purposes and not as an actual portrayal of what women really fantasize about, but it made me think – what exactly are most women fantasizing about and is it so different from typical male sexual fantasies?
The media is constantly depicting women as either the innocent wife who always fakes a headache to get out of having sex, or the temptress with sex on the brain 24/7. But the reality is that men and women have similar sex drives and – drum roll please – fantasize about the exact same things.
Keep that in mind the next time you hesitate to tell your partner about your fantasies. It's understandable why most people would want to hide their fantasies from their partner, but consider this: almost every survey on sexual fantasies produced practically the same results for men and women.
The number one fantasy for men is to be with two women (I’m shocked), while the number three fantasy for women is to be with two men. Maybe that’s no surprise but what about this: another popular fantasy for men is to be able to watch two women together. And believe it or not, the number five fantasy for women is to actually have a sexual experience with another woman while a man is watching. (Oh my.)
For men, having a female take control of a sexual situation ranked number 10, and it's no surprise that it also ranked number eight for women.
The number eight sexual fantasy for men was to be seduced by an older woman, and one of the most common types of men that women fantasize about is the younger man - thanks to you, Mrs. Robinson. So maybe our fantasies are the same, but how could this help your relationship? Ahem - role-playing!
The next time you think your partner might not understand your weird sexual fantasies, chances are your partner is having the same ones.
During an episode of Private Practice last week, a female character was having the most unrealistic sexual fantasy in the history of sexual fantasies. Her fantasy consisted of a handsome guy saying things like, “I love your red hair” and "You’re so intelligent…that really turns me on."
Now I’m sure ABC was just using this absurd stereotypical fantasy for humor purposes and not as an actual portrayal of what women really fantasize about, but it made me think – what exactly are most women fantasizing about and is it so different from typical male sexual fantasies?
The media is constantly depicting women as either the innocent wife who always fakes a headache to get out of having sex, or the temptress with sex on the brain 24/7. But the reality is that men and women have similar sex drives and – drum roll please – fantasize about the exact same things.
Keep that in mind the next time you hesitate to tell your partner about your fantasies. It's understandable why most people would want to hide their fantasies from their partner, but consider this: almost every survey on sexual fantasies produced practically the same results for men and women.
The number one fantasy for men is to be with two women (I’m shocked), while the number three fantasy for women is to be with two men. Maybe that’s no surprise but what about this: another popular fantasy for men is to be able to watch two women together. And believe it or not, the number five fantasy for women is to actually have a sexual experience with another woman while a man is watching. (Oh my.)
For men, having a female take control of a sexual situation ranked number 10, and it's no surprise that it also ranked number eight for women.
The number eight sexual fantasy for men was to be seduced by an older woman, and one of the most common types of men that women fantasize about is the younger man - thanks to you, Mrs. Robinson. So maybe our fantasies are the same, but how could this help your relationship? Ahem - role-playing!
The next time you think your partner might not understand your weird sexual fantasies, chances are your partner is having the same ones.
1 comment:
You are absolutely right about fantasies.
I agreed with you. We are all come from the same planet but with different cultures, and maybe that´s what makes the difference.
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